All too often when I’m considering dreams, I think of myself as looking at them, analyzing what they are or what they mean. But when I sink in more deeply to what the experience of a dream is, I realize that this is the wrong way to approach dreams. Truly, it is the dream that see us, not the other way around. Our dreams give us the experience of being witnessed, giving us a glimpse into what we look like from the perspective of the spirit that loves us unconditionally. This process of being seen in the dream is not always easy. But when know we are seen, it makes it just a little bit easier to open our hearts, and be in vulnerability. Simply being seen by another is enough to stimulate our soul into rising, and our dreams give us this opportunity, again and again, if we are willing to accept it.

I think this is why eye contact is considered to be rude, invasive, and aggressive by many. Because it stirs the soul and what stirs the soul stirs fear, because it is the part of us that knows we are alive. I’ve had people tell me they think it is rude to talk about dreams because they are so boring. I’ve always found this funny because there are so many boring topics that are perfectly acceptable to talk about—the weather, sports, clothing. Truly I think it is labeled as ‘boring’ for the same reasons making eye contact is seen as ‘rude’—talking about dreams stirs something in people, it makes them feel something—it could be a wide range of things—that they would rather not feel. For, as much as we long to be seen by others, we fear it intensely.

I’m someone who has been described as ‘rude’, and I couldn’t deny that I probably have been. But truly I would prefer to err on the side of rudeness than skirt an important truth or miss an opportunity to let someone know that I empathize with their experience, and I care. I realize that this is a value I’ve learned from dreams themselves, who seem to be somewhat relentless in trying to demonstrate our truth to us. I’m convinced this is the reason we have reoccurring dreams–that the spirit of the dream is one that will never give up until we have fully accepted the part of us that the dream wants to illuminate. When you turn the light on someone’s dark corner all these bug scatter and shame comes up and sometimes it shifts really quickly into aggression or withdrawal or judgment. Deeply witnessing someone else takes a steady hand and an open, unconditionally loving heart. I’ve learned the hard way without those tools it can be wounding and oppressive. Our dreams can show us the precise way that our wounds need to be approached so that the result can be transformative and healing.

Dreams teach us that we can not live in fear of the truth. The truth is our birthright and it is fleeting and it is contradictory and it is personal and it is the bird’s song as the sun begins to rise. The truth is the only time things feel alright. And it has nothing to do with right or wrong or good or bad—it lives somewhere beyond the us we think we are, it lives where our dreams live, it lives right on the tip of the tongue.

Krishnamurti said “Truth is a pathless land,” which to me means, every path leads to it. But dreams are a path that I’ve come to hold very close to my heart. This is because they are so unflinching, so all-encompassing, and so personal. Every night dreams bring you the experience of one more aspect of your truth, shining just a little more light on your soul—and in doing so, reminds you that every single night, you are deeply seen.

Truth is not a solid line, it is a glittering diamond whose glory can shine forth differently from each person’s eye. Dreams remind us of this diamond inside–sometimes gently, sometimes forcefully. Reminding us that there is a real us down there, and it glitters in the light and spins inside our stomachs and it urges and it yearns and it loves and it creates and it learns and it grows and it heals, and that this is the part of us that is alive. This is where our truth comes from, where the truth comes from, and it is precious simply because it is, and it is because it is seen. Your dreams see you.