November is a time when we are heading into the holidays…a time when we are expected to give thanks and be grateful for what we have…a time we may find ourselves in the midst of our families…with our myriad memories, experiences and traditions…or we may find ourselves alone…feeling the lack of meaningful relationships in our life…or even the feeling of being alone amidst others.

For many this giving thanks can be a difficult thing to do, an overwhelming expectation, especially if our world, our life, our health, our relationships are less than satisfying. We may be grieving the death of a loved one, loss of a relationship, a job. We may feel alone in the world. Gratitude can be hard to come by in these situations.

In a place where we might want to feel some compassion, some kindness towards ourselves we can instead develop an ‘if only’ attitude. If only I had a partner, if only my loved one hadn’t died, if only…if only…if only…then we would be happy and grateful for our life. We keep postponing living and experiencing of our life until some never arrived at future date when everything comes together.

Or we might dismiss our difficult feelings, believing that life has some kind of sliding scale, “Well, others have it worse so I shouldn’t feel badly about my own loss or grief. We don’t even allow ourselves these painfully tender moments of loneliness.

How do we find our way through these times…which is life itself? How do we, each in our own given circumstances, find a measure of wholeness? One very potent way is when we explore our dreams and the uniquely personal support and teaching they bring each night.

Our dreams know that many of us may struggle with support in the outer world so they show us the support we have in the inner world…dream figures who come to us in kindness, love and support. Being in this inner relationship…feeling the love…we begin to have a kindness…a compassion towards ourselves…we begin to love ourselves…and that is who we take in the outer world and into our relationships.

Whether we are negative or resigned, our dreams respond to these ways of thinking. They show us with great directness places we’ve been hurt and so turned away from relationship, they show us what role we play and choices we make in our living a fulfilling or unfulfilling life. Then, as always, it is our choice to look at this aspect of ourselves and work with it or not.

To find the healing and wholeness in our dreams is neither an easy nor a quick fix…but it is a true and thorough one.

Here at Natural Dreamwork we would love to step into your dreams with you, explore together what it is that wants to take birth in you…wants to be in relationship with you. We work with clients throughout the country and abroad in person, phone or Skype. Click on the About Us page to get in touch with one of us and begin the conversation with your dreams.