November is a time when we are heading into the holidays…a time when we are expected to give thanks and be grateful for what we have…a time we find ourselves in the midst of our families…with our myriad memories, traditions and family dynamics.

For many this can be a difficult thing to do, an overwhelming expectation, especially if our world, our life, our health, our relationships are less than satisfying. We may be grieving the death of a loved one, loss of a relationship, a job. We may feel alone in the world. Gratitude can be hard to come by in these situations.

In a place where we might want to feel some compassion, some kindness towards ourselves we can develop an ‘if only’ attitude. If only I had a partner, if only my loved one hadn’t died, if only…if only…if only…then we would be happy and grateful for our life. We keep postponing living and experiencing of our life until some future date when everything comes together.

Or we might dismiss our difficult feelings, believing that life is a sliding scale, “Well, others have it worse so I shouldn’t feel badly about my own loss or grief.” We don’t even allow ourselves these painfully tender moments of loneliness. 

Our dreams won’t let these impoverished ways of thinking…whether we are negative or resigned…go unchallenged.  They show us with great directness what role we play and choices we make in our living a fulfilling or unfulfilling life.  Then, as always, it is our choice to look at this aspect of ourselves and work with it or not. 

How do we find our way through these times…which is life itself? How do we, each in our own given circumstances, find a measure of wholeness? There are really quite a few, including exploring our dreams and the stunningly unique and personal support and teaching they bring each night.

Our dreams know that many of us may struggle with support in the outer world so they show us…help us remember actually…the support we have in the inner world…dream figures who come to us in kindness, love and support. They help us remember this deep eternal connection that we have always had but have forgotten. Being in this inner relationship…feeling the love…we begin to love ourselves…and that is who we become in the outer world.

To find the healing and wholeness in our dreams and then in our lives is neither an easy nor a quick fix…but it is a true and thorough one.

(Image by Tallulah Fontaine)

Here at Natural Dreamwork we would love to step into your dreams with you, explore together what it is that wants to take birth in you…wants to be in relationship with you. We work with clients throughout the country and abroad in person, phone or Skype. Click on the About Us page to get in touch with one of our practitioners and begin the conversation with your dreams.